Who says 50 Shades of Grey is a sweet romantic movie? Seriously, whoever says that way, that it's a new kind of Twilight-ish romance (well, the novel itself was begun as a Twilight fan fiction), please write me an essay about how in the world it could be seen as a romantic movie. Because I have already written my own about the exact opposite; how I see no romance in 50 Shades of Grey but terror.

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Terror. Sounds too much, doesn't it? It makes you think of a "beautiful innocent girl who keeps being followed by a handsome guy who turns out to be a psychopath" kind of movie. But, yes, 50 Shades of Grey has that kind of terror. We never see Anastasia Steel telling Christian Grey exactly where she is, but Christian always goes like, "I'll go there" and ends up appearing right in front of her. There are also some moments where Christian is out of the blue visiting her without even saying things like, "where are you? Can I come?". He terrorizes her. He keeps tracking her because he wants to keep her mine. Showing up at where ever she is is like saying, "you can't hide and you can't go anywhere because you are all mine." How creepy does that sound?

Christian Grey is not being romantic. How hard is it for you to understand that showing up at where ever she is is just another kind of terror? He does everything he can to tracks her, to find out where she is and then pick her up because he wants to keep her mine. It's like he forces her to be his. He doesn't care whether she wants it or not. He gives her expensive gifts and even sells her car without her permission and then buys her a new one. Then why doesn't she say no to all those expensive gifts she never asked? Well, she does refuse to take those gifts. She even gets angry at him when she finds out that he sold her car. But what does she get in return? He punishes her. He spanks her. And it's for the sake of his pleasure.

"Well, it's pretty obvious that Christian is a BDSM practitioner. He has this Red Room of Pain in his house where obviously a 'scene' would take place. He has this Dominant-Submissive contract paper that he gives Anastasia to sign on. A typical BDSM lifestyle. Then why it seems very wrong that he spanks her to please him since spanking is just one of many plays that give pleasure to both the Dom and the Sub in a BDSM practice?" 

Yes, I bet some of you would like to ask me that kind of question. Now let's get to the stupidest part of this movie. 50 Shades of Grey fails to represent the BDSM lifestyle. Christian Grey may be a BDSM practitioner (or at least that's what the author intended him to be), but the way he treats Anastasia is not how a Dom treats his Sub. Being a Dom means that you have to make sure your Sub is fully aware of what they're doing, that you also need to respect your Sub, know your Sub's limits. A Dom is also not allowed to force his Sub to do something she doesn't want to do, because a BDSM practice is all about mutual consent and mutual enjoyment of the participants. No one is forcing the other. You have to play SSC; safe, sane, consensual. Both the Dom and the Sub need to put trust in each other.

Christian Grey is not like that. He kinds of force Anastasia to trust him, to be his Sub, to be all his. He "follows" her. He forces her to take all the gifts he gives her even if she refuses to. He shows up right in front of her, out of nowhere, even if she doesn't ask to be visited. Even if she doesn't even tell him where she is. And then he just takes her away with him, flies her with a helicopter to make it looks romantic. It's like, he's giving her threats. He's controlling her. He doesn't ask if she wants it. He doesn't ask if she minds. He's kidnapping her to be his Sub. Although I don't agree with that. She looks more like a victim than a Sub. Because, well, he doesn't even give her enough education and information about BDSM lifestyle, what it is and what the participants usually do and how. That sounds more like a coercion, doesn't it? And with a coercion, it looks more like an abuse than BDSM.

Yes, what makes 50 Shades of Grey scary to me is that it's an abuse and kidnapping wrapped up in a BDSM lifestyle. A stupid, creepy, and abusive BDSM lifestyle. In other words, a false BDSM lifestyle. It makes the Dom looks creepy and the Sub looks stupid. It makes men look like creep controlling creatures and women look like the ones who keeps begging to be controlled. Wow. How scary. And, the scariest part is, it's all wrapped up in a big beautiful package called romance. It makes people think that it's okay to treat women that way, because, "I saw it in a movie!". I myself have heard a lot of true stories about a boyfriend who keeps threatening his girlfriend, telling her what to do and not to do, and forcing her to make out or even have sex with him. Yes, true stories, my friend. Like I have mentioned before, 50 Shades of Grey is telling a lot about sexual abuse and also domestic violence. And since a movie plays a big role in affecting our society and culture, it scared me that there's a chance I'll be hearing a lot and a lot more true stories like that. Let us hope that I won't.